I may just have to change the name of my blog.

Driving to Nashville this morning, talking to Jana. I had to pull over and write this down while it was fresh.

She says, “you know, I want an unoffendable spirit. When someone says something to me that I don’t understand, I just want to say ‘I’m not sure what you mean by that?’ Because I see, rather than my own story that I’m making up about what they’re saying, it could be one of three things:

1. They have valid coaching or correction for me and I need to hear it.
2. They are insulting me, in a passive-aggressive way, and we need to bring that out into the open and deal with it.
3. I’m just making crap up, or it’s the enemy speaking to me, and I need to know their heart so I can flush what’s not true”

Jesus said “be careful how you listen.” It’s worth asking a question to clarify meaning.

PS: Watch your tonality when you ask this, don’t offend in the way you say it. You don’t want to insinuate, you’re just trying to create a safe place where actual communication and understanding can grow.