Ten years ago Jana and I went through the toughest season of our marriage – we call it the 18 days.  Over the last three weeks, she and I have been remembering the milestones: what was happening then, where we are now, and how breakthrough happened.

I heard someone say recently, “Your best chance for success in marriage is to stay in the one you’re in.”  I did my best to blow mine up repeatedly in the first 18 years, primarily by hanging onto a porn addiction.

I can’t tell this whole story in a single post.  For today, I just want to open the conversation and say for if you’re ready to quit on your marriage, there’s hope.  If God could work a redemption story for us, I know he can do it for anyone.

One of the most important things we had going for us was that we were in community.  We had a few people, a few couples, that believed in us when we didn’t believe in ourselves, who kept pointing us back to the truth of God’s love and grace, who offered listening ears as well as the solid guidance that we needed.

Lesson 1 would be, am I willing to invite other people into my mess?  Am I willing to get honest about what is really going on?