This one sounds obvious, but based on the guys I’ve talked to over the years (and frankly, the guy I have too often been over the years), it’s worth a quick reminder. There are five (5) dates that matter in your marriage, five dates where you need to show up & get it done. Five dates you can start planning for now.
You ready?
- Valentines Day
- Mother’s Day
- Her Birthday
- Your Anniversary
- Christmas
What’s amazing is, every year they fall on the same date, and you have so much lead time. The first one comes up in a month in a half (unless her birthday comes earlier), so get started. Take time to listen to her, what she cares about, what she’s got on her mind. Take notes. Talk to her best friend. Dream. Plan. Get past all your excuses (“I’m not good at this,” “she knows I love her,” etc.) and get past anything she might say to the contrary (“Oh, Honey, you don’t have to worry about my birthday, it’s not that big a deal…”).
Most likely you spent time over the last few weeks reviewing your past twelve months and thinking about your goals for this coming year. Now consider how central and critical your marriage is for your life and well-being, how important she truly is to you, and give these five dates some thoughtful attention. While you’re at it, you might want to plan a regular weekly date night with your wife.
You can do it. I believe in you. It will be so worth it.
She’s so worth it.
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